Do You Give Burdensome Gifts?

copper cookwareI got into a conversation last night with my mother-in-law about cookware. The reason for this discussion was a mistake I’d made about not checking inside the oven before turning it on. She stores some of her pans in there, and I fried two handle covers. But I’d discovered that I could order replacement ones, so I’d told her about that, and then somehow we started talking about various metals that are used for pots and pans, and she mentioned that someone who’d stayed with them many years ago had given her a set of copper pans with a cooktop included. “Where is it?” I asked, intrigued. “Oh, somewhere in the garage. I’ve never used it–I don’t have room for it. I’d have to use it on top of the stove, and that wouldn’t make any sense–I’d be using it on top of the burners that are already there.”

When I went into the garage just now to look for it I realized that the quest was hopeless, mainly because all of our stuff is in there, plus a lot that had to be moved out of the downstairs to make room for us.

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Do You “Respect Your Possessions”?

Pile of garbageYet another blog post generated from a Gretchen Rubin idea. (I guess at some point I’ll have to start paying her a commission.) She had an interview this week with Marie Kondo, the incredibly successful organizer/declutterer who has now written a second book, Spark Joy. I just went online and downloaded the audiobook from the library, so expect to hear about my going on another ninja clearing-out raid in the days to come, the same thing that happened when I read Kondo’s first book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

 

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The Tyranny of Possessions

PictureSalisbury House, EnglandI was reminded of this principle awhile ago when I was in an enormous house for a meeting.You walked into the front door and there you were in a foyer with one staircase curving down into a family room with a pool table and a fountain in the floor and the other curving up to the main level with another fountain, this time as a sheet of water flowing down a glass wall. I sat in the beautiful living room facing a fireplace with some kind of fancy poured-concrete mantel and huge shelves on either side of it going all the way up to the very high ceiling, with decorative objects and photographs. All I could think was, ‘How on earth do you get up to that top shelf to dust?” It wouldn’t be a matter of a stepstool; more of a stepladder. Maybe even a crane.

Before I go on, I do want to make it clear (not that anyone reading this has the faintest idea whom I’m talking about) that I’m not in any way criticizing the people who own the house. I have no idea how they use it or what their rationale was for buying it. I really enjoyed being there, and I came home fired up with the intention of keeping my own house a little more pristine.

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Three Partially-Read Books

stack of 3 books beside sunflowers

Sounds like a ringing endorsement, doesn’t it? But I do recommend the ideas in all three books, and if you take a look at one or all of them you may find that you want to finish it/them. I feel sometimes that certain books make their main point in the introduction and then the rest of the book is just amplification that goes on too long, and that’s my opinion of two of these selections. The third one is really excellent all the way through (or at least as far through as I got) and so meaty that I couldn’t listen to too much of it at once, Then my checkout expired. I do plan at some point to go back to it and finish.Here they are in alphabetical order. The Moore book is the “meaty” one. They’re all available as audiobooks at my library.

From the Sublime to the Mundane

Yesterday I took on the Big Question of free will vs. fate.  Today I’m talking about cleaning out my Sonicare toothbrush.  No one can accuse me of being in a rut!

Here’s the thing:  The inside of the head  of this appliance gets gunked up with this black stuff, toothpaste residue, and it drives me crazy. ( Yes, I do rinse out the bristles.  It still happens.)  So I periodically spend 10 minutes or so cleaning it out with q-tips, but at some point it’s just hopeless.  Recently I replaced the head, as you’re supposed to do every three months (but who does that, really?) and I determined that I was going to keep it clean.  So now, every time I use it, twice a day. I unscrew the top from the base, rinse it out inside, and shake out the water before screwing it back on.  Takes about 30 seconds, tops.  So far it seems to be staying clean.  No more black gunk.  A good illustration, once again, of the principle that it’s easier to keep up than it is to catch up.  (I will spare you the description of how awful my sink stopper gets because I let hairs go down the drain instead of cleaning them out.  You don’t want to know about that, believe me.)

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Looking Ahead . . . and Missing the Present

We’re always told to plan ahead, look to the future, and keep our eyes on the goal.  For me, though, that’s pretty terrible advice.  I tend to be like the guy in the picture.  There I am, up on the ladder, gazing into the future, and my feet aren’t on the ground of the present.  I can imagine myself having lots of speaking engagements, or selling lots of books, or whatever.  I have what I would call goals, but I’m not very good at being sure that TODAY, right now, I’m doing what needs to be done that will move me along the way to the desired result.  As I say in the chapter on “Motivations, Goals and Desires” in my book (see sidebar for ordering information), “A goal without a plan is just a wish.”

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What Are Your Limits?

At 9:00 last night I told Jim that I was going to take a look at a documentary that was airing on our PBS station but that I thought I probably wouldn’t watch much of it, as it sounded pretty depressing.  The title of the film was “The Overnighters” and was described as telling the story of a Lutheran pastor in a small North Dakota oil-boom town who opens up his church to let men sleep there who have come to find work and have nowhere else to go.  Usually these films in the series “POV” are an hour long, but it was clear at 10:00 that we had a ways to go, and I was fading fast.  When I turned off the TV last night I figured that I knew pretty much what was going to happen to Jay Reinke and his program; today I went online to watch the remainder and found out the rest of the story.

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Are Good Deeds Their Own Reward?

I wrote last week about John Piper’s book Desiring God and said that I had just started reading it and was excited about its ideas.  I’ve been chewing over it–a better description than “reading it”–and realizing more and more how much it would have helped me back when I was a college student and struggling with the question of what God wanted me to do with my life.  But hey–I’m still struggling with that question.  So it’s still helpful.

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Tool Costs

I seem to be on a tool tear, as it were.  Over the past several weeks I’ve written about using Scrivener as a writing tool, my little laptop as a bill-paying tool, and habits as tools to help lend structure to my life.  But . . . I’ve also emphasized that tools don’t do the work for us.  So I’m dedicating this post to two non-tool-users, Woody Allen and K. Lee Scott

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Habits Are Just Tools!

Here’s what I want:  to move along doing the grungy stuff on automatic pilot while I think great thoughts.  Wouldn’t that be wonderful?  Suddenly, at the end of the day, I’d realize that every task had been done perfectly but that I hadn’t had to exert any effort to do them.  All done through the magical power of habits and routines.  We all know, though, that it ain’t never gonna happen.  And guess what?  it would be a shame if it did

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