Grab that Forelock!

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So, last week I was in Parachute, Colorado, a little town about halfway between Grand Junction and Glenwood Springs, as part of our big celebration of my in-laws’ 25th wedding anniversary. It’s always hard for me to find coffee that I like on the road. (I wasn’t even very impressed with the coffee I got in France!) I was pleased to see that there was something called “The Little Coffee Shack” a couple of blocks from our hotel and decided to go over there, since I was sure that the coffee provided as part of our free hotel breakfast would be terrible. My big beef with coffee made by anyone but me is that it’s too weak. Someone several years ago suggested that I start ordering what’s called a “shot in the dark,” which is regular brewed coffee with an added shot of espresso. I’ve done that several times and had fairly good results. Okay. I went over there and ordered. I even said, “Just to be sure, a ‘shot in the dark’ is . . .” and the girl on duty said, “Sure—I know what that is.” Well, folks, she must not have. What I got was basically colored water, for which I was charged $3.75.

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Stand Your Ground without Being Disagreeable.

For some reason I got to thinking today about a situation from back in my grad school days, one which I may have written about before. For my master’s thesis and recital I had a teacher assigned to me for us to work one-on-one. She had extremely strong opinions about how my writing should be done; she was a writer herself, and she thought her process was the only way to go. So she informed me early on that I would have a certain number of pages due each week—five, I think. I protested. “I need time to research and think about what I want to say.” That was fine, she assured me. I might end up throwing those pages away, but I needed to do them anyway. Well, what a pain. I did what she asked, but in the end I wasted a lot of time, because I was being forced to follow her process instead of my own.

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This Week’s Whopper of a Page-Turner

Well, I’m still plowing through The Great Debate: Edmund Burke, Thomas Paine, and the Birth of Right and Left by the great Yuval Levin, a book about the warring philosophies of Edmund Burke (often seen as a great figure in the history of conservatism) and Thomas Paine (often seen as a proponent of radicalism in the pursuit of freedom). It’s an audio book of ten and a half hours, and I’m only at 4:10:59, so I’m not even halfway through. The ideas are really very interesting, and the writing is clear, but boy is it dense! I can only get through so much at a time. Every time I listen to a section I feel as if my mind is being expanded, but then I have to take a break.

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New Year’s Resolution #3–Be Assertive, Not Bossy or Wimpy

rose growing up through ticksSo far I’ve mentioned two New Year’s Resolutions: my main one, phrased as the question “Why deny myself the pleasure?” about not letting small annoyances spoil my enjoyment, and my desire to read more books in the place of online articles. In pursuit of that second resolution I’ve gotten s little over a quarter of the way through The Great Debate: Edmund Burke, Thomas Paine, and the Birth of Right and Left by Yuval Levin, a serious, serious conservative intellectual who writes for National Review sometimes and who made an appearance on Jonah Goldberg’s podcast “The Remnant” recently. (I think I’ve just broken my own record for the number of links in a paragraph. Feel free to ignore them, but I would, as a sidenote, recommend the podcast. Be aware that Jonah does a fair amount of umming and what I can only describe as giggling, which can get a little annoying. I’ll be sharing more insights and books from his program; once you get past his mannerisms he’s very worthwhile.)

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What do you care what people think?

Book cover for Blood Will OutBlood Will Out:  The True Story of a Murder, a Mystery, and a Masquerade by Walter Kirn.

One of these days I’m going to write about the book by Richard Feynmann that actually has the title of this post.  That’s a truly great book about a truly great genius, who absolutely and positively refused to be guided by other people’s opinions.

This book, though, is about someone, actually two someones, whose whole lives were bound up in caring about what other people thought of them.  While there is indeed a murder and a mystery in this book,

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Fear More, Worry Less

The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence by Gavin de Becker, Dell Trade Paperback, 1999, also available in other formats. I’m not sure why I was reminded of this book and put it on hold at the library.  I had read it before and remembered portions of it quite well, but it was well worth re-reading.  De Becker runs a security firm, providing services and counseling to people who feel and/or indeed are under threat.  He himself grew up in an extremely violent home, but instead of becoming violent himself he decided to help reduce violence by giving people the tools they need to protect themselves.

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Why do we care what other people think?

When People are Big and God Is Small:  Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man by Edward T. Welch, P & R Publishing, 1997.  Published in cooperation with The Christian Counseling and Education Foundation.

This past Sunday, during an excellent sermon drawn from the book of Romans, my pastor cited a term that was new to me:  “imposter syndrome.”  According to an article in Forbes magazine and other sources, this condition occurs when seemingly confident and capable people are plagued by the fear of being exposed as frauds.  “Everyone thinks I’m so great.  If they only knew!”
Sounds pretty normal to me!  And very biblical, to boot.  The Christian view of man says that we’re all incapable of saving ourselves and in desperate need of someone else to do it for us. and that someone is Christ.  Our sinful nature explains why we’re so messed up when it comes to our reactions to both the accolades and the taunts of other people.  We fear them more than we fear God.  As I listened to the sermon I was reminded of this book and decided to use it for this week’s post.

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Passionate Happiness Pursuit

I’ve been writing quite a bit recently about two subjects:  tools and planning.  As I write this I’m facing two frantic days to prepare for tomorrow night’s concert and reception.  Yesterday I got all of my grocery shopping done, a task that I would normally have put off until today.  So today can be solely dedicated to food prep that can be done ahead, housework, and going over my music.  We have our second concert-week rehearsal this evening, which will be fraught with the usual angst over our entrances and exits.  (Why we can’t just have a standard procedure that we always follow is beyond me, but I guess it keeps us from getting complacent.)

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Shaming never works . . .

. . . It’s only inspiring that works.” (Amit Sood, Professor of Medicine, Mayo Clinic)

I caught this statement on a radio segment about keeping New Year’s resolutions.  It aired sometime in January, I think, and now I can’t find it, but I was so impressed at the time that I looked it up to be sure the quotation was correct and to get the name of the speaker.

What do you think?  Do you find that you try to shame yourself or others into doing the right thing?  What kind of results do you get?