Some Small Resolutions.

cranberriesSince our out-of-town company arrives this evening for a stay of a week, I may not be posting much over the next few days and figure that I’ll get something written about the resolutions I’m making as of RIGHT NOW. (Why should I wait until Jan. 1?) These resolutions are in the area of small, consistent actions, the kind of thing that I hate doing. I mean, like, DESPISE. My kitchen has been a disaster zone for the past week, for example, because I never got it completely cleaned up after last week’s big baking extravaganza for our church’s Christmas party and then haven’t been very consistent about cleaning up after meals since then.

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I Must Stop Saying, “But First . . . “

man counting to 1 on his fingersA terrible, terrible habit of mine. I’ll be all ready to get started on an actual task, something that needs to be done, and then I’ll say to myself, “But first let me check my e-mail. But first let me see what so-and-so is saying on that website I like. But first let me have a snack.” Whatever. Half an hour, forty-five minutes, an hour can go by. 

So earlier this afternoon I was all set to sit down at the keyboard and go over my music for the Cherry Creek Chorale concert next week. (Got your tickets yet? Get them here. Read my fascinating commentaries here.)

And since I had my phone with me to I could listen to the practice music files loaded onto it, I thought, ‘But first let me . . . ‘ and then I thought, ‘No. I have to quit doing that.’ It’s almost as if I’m afraid to just go ahead and get going.

Ever happen to you? How do you deal with it?


Structure Can Set Us Free.

Silhoette with a clock brainIf we use it correctly, that is.

So I’m continuing to gain wisdom, both practical and spiritual, from my wonderful Bible study group. A couple of weeks ago I was a little puzzled by the fact that the teaching leader’s phone kept chiming as she worked her way through our discussion of the study questions.  Why on earth doesn’t she turn that off? I wondered. She’d just reach over, touch the screen, and continue. I thought she was getting text messages or something. Couldn’t they wait?

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A Lovely Novel by the “Daily Hercules”

Cover for The Last Chronicle of Barset, shows a mother and her children

The Last Chronicle of Barset by Anthony Trollope, available in numerous editions from numerous sources.  You can get it on Kindle for free.

The candidate for this week’s book review was Liberal Fascism by Jonah Goldberg, but I’m still wading through it.  Don’t get me wrong:  it is an important book, I might say even an essential book.  But it will have to wait until next week.  I can only absorb a little of it at a time and am now just four and a half hours into a 16-hour audio version.

For some reason I was reminded of Trollope’s masterpiece and decided that it would be a good stand-in, even though it has nothing to do with geopolitics.  Instead, I guess you could say that it has much to do with personal politics.  I have read it at least twice and probably more; I love it and can hardly believe that Trollope ground it out, under pressure and deadline, just as he did all of his novels.  But more of that in a minute.

First let me say that if you do not fall madly in love with the character of Lily Dale, and mourn for Johnny Eames, and want to strangle Mr. Crawley, well, I just don’t know about you.  ​These characters are as real to me as . . . Lord Peter Wimsey and Harriet Vane.  As you might gather from the title, the novel is part of a series and is indeed the last one.  But you don’t have to have read the other five to enjoy this one, although if you’d like to get more of the backstory you could read The Small House at Allington, the one immediately preceding Last Chronicle.

I am amazed at writers who seem to have an inexhaustible geyser of creativity gushing out of them. (Perhaps not the best image.)  Where does all of this come from?  How do you just create these people, and these events, and these entire societies, out of your own imagination?  It boggles me.  I’m a very slow writer myself, and if I ever manage to get down on paper the one novel I keep saying I’m going to write it will probably be finished on my deathbed.  Trollope is known not only for the quality and quantity of his output but also for his methodology.  He paid a servant on his estate five pounds a year to wake him up at 5:00 every morning–the man was not to give up until Trollope was out of bed–and sat at his desk from 5:30 to 8:30, churning out 250 words every 15 minutes.  If he finished one novel before his time on a certain morning was up he started on a new one. (It’s tempting to take all this with a grain of salt.  Did the man never do any revising?  Still, those 47 novels, plus travel writing and an autobiography, didn’t come out of nowhere.)  The truly amazing aspect of Trollope’s writing is not its volume; people have churned out so-called “potboilers” by the gross ever since it was possible to get paid by the word.  (The term refers to literary output done simply to pay the bills, or to keep the pot boiling.)  His portrayals of character are remarkable, particularly those of women. (I just leafed through a few pages and was reminded of Mrs. Proudie, yet another great Trollopian creation.)

Great quote from Trollope: “A small daily task, if it be really daily, will beat the labours of a spasmodic Hercules.” So true.

I know, I know.  My edition runs to almost 900 pages of small type.  Audible.com has the audiobook available, although it’s kind of expensive.  My library system, Arapahoe Libraries, has it on Hoopla. Hey, it’s only thirty-four hours! Think of all the needlepoint you could get done in that amount of time!

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Do You Manage Yourself, Or Try to Manage Others?

outline of head with wordlcloud containing: Direct, Evaluate, Measure, Admire, Detract, Promote, Blame, Excuse, Supervise, Control, Analyze“The only person I can change is myself.”

Here I sit, having wasted hours of my time reading about the election campaign.  I haven’t done a very good job of managing myself today, so maybe I can at least get a blogpost out of my self-indulgence.

Without at all getting into the weeds of the actual politics (that’s for my Personal and Political page), I’ll say that it’s absolutely fascinating to watch the campaigns play out with all their many moving parts.  You may recall that the books I recommended from a couple of weeks ago were by Mary Matalin and George Carville, with the earlier one, Love and War, being about the 1992 election, during which Matalin and Carville met and fell in love.  Just one little problem:  they were working on opposite sides, Matalin for the re-election of George H. W. Bush, Carville for Bill Clinton.  On election night James calls Mary (I’ll call them that since this is a personal part of the story) and she says to him, “I cannot believe you could live on this earth and know that you were responsible for electing a slime, a scum, a philandering, pot-smoking, draft-dodging pig of a man . . . You make me sick.  I hate your guts.”  After she cusses him out (she doesn’t quote that part), she hangs up.  As she says, “I don’t remember him saying anything.”  (And they got married–and still are to this day!  Miracles do happen.)

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Three Wise Sayings on the Use of Time

clock and gears

More inspiration from my dear friend Nancy’s father, Gil Johnson, quoted at his funeral:

“Never let a day go by without learning something new.””No experience is a failure if you learn from it.”

“What you do today is important, because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.”

I don’t think I can add much to these statements.  That last one, in particular, is a real shove in the right direction.  May I add a quotation from my own book on this subject?

“Time is even more unforgiving than money, because sometimes you can get your money back after you spend it, but that never, ever happens with time.”


Unconscious Consumption

Mindless Eating by Brian Wansink (2009-07-06)Mindless Eating:  Why We Eat More than We Think by Brian Wansink, Ph.D., Bantam Books, 2006, new editions available along with new resources.  Check out Dr. Wansink’s website at mindlesseating.org.   You can even get a free refrigerator magnet!

I can’t believe that I haven’t written about this book before now.  There are later editions, but I made sure to use the cover image from the version I have because I love the use of the pitchfork and shovel as eating implements.  Once you read this book (read this book!) you will never again think that we eat only because we’re hungry.

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Scheduling Strategies

Some of you reading this will want to hit me over the head with your Day-Timers(c) when I say this, but the fact is that I have altogether too much control over my time.  I work from home, my only child is 20 years old, and my husband is a laid-back kind of guy.  Don’t get me wrong:  1) I have lots to do, and 2) I’m not complaining.  It’s just that I get to choose when to do most of the things I have to do.  And I’m very, very bad at making those choices.  Why is that?  Because I’m what Gretchen Rubin calls an “obliger.”  I will kill myself meeting an outside deadline because I respond readily to others’ expectations.  But I have a terrible time responding to my own.

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Two for the Price of One

Cover for Plato at the GoogleplexPlato at the Googleplex:  Why Philosophy Won’t Go Away by Rebecca Newberger Goldstein.  New York:  Pantheon Books, 2014. Link is to the author’s website.

So . . .a 400+-page book on philosophy.  Real promising, isn’t it?  I hope I can persuade you to read it, even though parts of it are quite challenging and dense.  Sometimes you finish a book with a feeling of satisfaction:  “I made it through.”  Sometimes with almost a sigh of relief:  “So that’s what happened!”  But once in a great while, at least for me, there’s a feeling of regret:  “Now I won’t get to be in the company of these characters any more.”  And that’s how I felt about the character of Plato in this book.  Suddenly I realized, “Oh no!  I’m almost finished, and I don’t want to be.  I want to go along with Plato into more of our modern world, hearing his take on all sorts of other situations.”  I hope I can get across in this post what a charming, gracious, focused person Plato is in this book.

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