I Get Reminded of Southern Gothic While Hiking in the West.

Trail in the Colorado mountainsI’m not completely sure what this post has to do with happiness or intentionality,  except that unexpected connections can be a source of pleasure.  So this shot was taken on our hike last week, the one that was supposed to have us end up at Blue Lake but which ended considerably before that because there was so much snow still on the trail.

As I took a look backward and snapped this picture suddenly the words “a worn path” popped into my head. And I remembered the short story with that title by the Southern writer Eudora Welty, about an old black woman who goes into town to get medicine for her grandson and who meets with various obstacles along the way.  Nothing very dramatic happens, although she does meet up with a hunter who points a gun at her and also falls into a ditch. Instead, we gradually find out about her situation and her character.  Her grandson swallowed lye three years before, and whatever it is she’s getting for him is “soothing medicine.”  We know that the story isn’t too long after the Civil War, as she says, “I never did go to school, I was too old at the Surrender.”  And we know that she and her grandson are alone in the world.  At the end of the story she has made it to Natchez, gotten the medicine, and is heading back home.  And that’s it.  (If you’d like to read the whole story, you can access it through the wonderful University of Virginia website that has digitized many works.  If you’d like to get a more comic side of Welty, you can read “Why I Live at the P. O.” According to good old Wikipedia, Welty was also a photographer, and this story was inspired by a picture she took of a woman ironing in the back room of a small Southern post office.)

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What do you care what people think?

Book cover for Blood Will OutBlood Will Out:  The True Story of a Murder, a Mystery, and a Masquerade by Walter Kirn.

One of these days I’m going to write about the book by Richard Feynmann that actually has the title of this post.  That’s a truly great book about a truly great genius, who absolutely and positively refused to be guided by other people’s opinions.

This book, though, is about someone, actually two someones, whose whole lives were bound up in caring about what other people thought of them.  While there is indeed a murder and a mystery in this book,

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A Cookbook Author Who’s Made Me Happy

I’ve referenced Ann Hodgman many times in this blog and the hospitality one also, and I’ve even listed the three cookbooks above.  But I’ve never actually done a post on her and her books, and I said I would do that at some point when I mentioned her in my post on Sue Klebold’s book.  Her Amazon page says that she’s the author of more than 40 children’s books, the above three cookbooks, and several humorous books.  I think she should be much, much better known than she is.

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A Somewhat Scandalous but Worthwhile Book

book cover for blood, bones, & butter

Blood, Bones & Butter:  The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef by Gabrielle Hamilton, originally published in 2011 in hardback by Random House, now available in several formats.  2012 paper edition includes a “Reader’s Guide” that gives updates on what has happened in Hamilton’s life since the original publication.  Available through Amazon and other outlets.  She has also written a cookbook, Prune, with the recipes she serves in her restaurant of the same name.  (“Prune” was her nickname as a child.  She chose that name for her restaurant as a nod to her deep love for the food she grew up eating.  Ho-kay, Gabrielle!

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Books on Happiness, Medicine and Knitting

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about home-improvement books by David Owen, one of the successful adults with a somewhat troubled adolescence mentioned in my post on Sue Klebold’s book.  Here’s another such successful adult, grown from the teenager who refused to let her parents into her room (but which was so messy that entrance was almost impossible anyway).

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A Great Book—And a New Way (for me) to Enjoy It

Cold-Case Christianity book cover

Cold Case Christianity:  A Homicide Detective Investigates the Claims of the Gospels by J. Warner Wallace, published by David C. Cook, 2013.  Available on Amazon in a number of formats, including an audiobook from audible.com, also from Christianbook.com.  Visit the author’s website at Cold Case Christianity.

I’m always getting great ideas from my pastor! On Easter Sunday he mentioned a book that sounded so intriguing: written by a former police detective, applying the rules of evidence to the Resurrection of Christ.

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An Initially-Disappointing but Ultimately-Helpful Book

cover for Smarter, Faster, BetterSmarter Faster Better:  The Secret of Being Productive in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg, Random House, 2016.  Available in several formats.

I found Duhigg’s ideas in his first book, The Power of Habit, so helpful and so interesting that I quoted from that source in my own book.  Now his second book is out, and at first I was very disappointed with it.  The thing of it is, he does something in his introduction that no writer or speaker should ever do:  he raises an expectation that he never fulfills.  (There’s a parallel principle in drama:  “If a gun is on the mantle in the first act, it must go off in the third.”)

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A Difficult but Needed Book

book cover for Travesty In Haiti

Travesty in Haiti:  A true account of Christian missions, orphanages, food aid, fraud and drug trafficking by Timothy T. Schwartz, Ph.D., first edition 2008, second 2010.  No publisher listed; available in multiple formats.

How’s that for a compelling headline?  I went back and forth over putting this book here in the blog, as so much in it is extremely unpleasant, depressing, and . . . maddening. The subtitle also seems to imply that Christian missions are going to be a main target of its criticism, but that isn’t the case. Secular NGO’s come in for much of the blame heaped upon attempts to help Haiti.  (An “NGO” is a “non-governmental organization,” a term of astonishing flexibility and scope.)The book opens with a gruesome scene:  five Haitian peasant men are murdered by a mob because they are supposedly communists.  In reality the men, and hundreds more like them, are actually members of a charitable cooperative advocating land reform. The violence drives out their organization and others like it, but soon new projects come back. Schwartz comes to Haiti also and stays for a decade, doing research for his doctorate and then working for various relief organizations himself.  You’d think that his tenure there must have been post-earthquake, but no.  The book ends well before then, around 2005.

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A Sobering Book that May Make You Happier

Book cover for Salt, Sugar, FatSalt Sugar Fat:  How the Food Giants Hooked Us by Michael Moss, Random House, 2013.  Available through Amazon in several formats.  See the author’s website for more information.

​One of the ways we can live a happier life is to live a healthier one.  Bad health can be a constant drain, a chronic darkener of mood.  Good health doesn’t necessarily make us happier, but it removes the drain.  Does that make sense?  Having good health is like having enough money:  You’re freed to think about something else.

Readers of this blog will be seeing regular posts from now on about healthy eating.  (It really should be “healthful eating,” but I just can’t bring myself to use that term.  It sounds so pretentious.)  I have cut out sweets from my diet pretty much completely, as I talked about in this post about personality types.

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And the book of the week is . . . 

Intentional Happiness Book CoverMine!

Yes, on this Black Friday, I am shamelessly promoting my own book.  You can see the links on the sidebar for purchasing a paperback, Kindle or e-book edition, so if you’re reading this in the daily e-mail be sure to go to my Intentional Living website so that you can follow those links.

I tried to make this a supremely practical book, with lots of illustrations from my own and others’ lives.  (You’ll find out a great deal about my husband and my mother.)  Honestly, folks, when I follow my own advice I’m much happier.

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