Pollyanna is known for playing the “Glad Game” (not the “Gland Game,” as I originally typed it), taught to her by her father, in which she tries to find something to be glad about in every situation. The original inspiration comes when Pollyanna expects to get a doll from the “missionary barrel” but finds only a pair of crutches. Her father tells her to look on the bright side: She can be glad that she doesn’t need them!
I think we can also misuse the Pollyanna Affect when we hear about some horror in the news. We want to make ourselves feel better, to think that the tragedy isn’t so bad. I found myself thinking (and I’m ashamed to admit this) about the Nice truck attack that at least it wasn’t a truck bomb. It’s not a dismissal of the death and suffering that this crime has caused but, I realized, more of a way to soothe myself. And that’s not a legitimate response.
So what is? Nothing less than clear-eyed realism. Not catastrophism, not false comfort. Only when we look at events steadily will we react properly. Can we be grateful in the midst of grief? Yes we can–but only when we understand the scope of that grief, and only when it’s ours. We can’t really be grateful on the behalf of someone else. Instead, if possible, we can empathize, and encourage, and look for practical ways to help. (“Let me know if I can do anything” is completely useless.) We can, as the Apostle Paul said, “Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep” (Romans 12:15 KJV).