This morning the daily quotation e-mail from Gretchen Rubin (I know I reference her a lot, but I just can’t resist passing this along because it’s so apropos) said: “One must never be either content with, or impatient with, oneself” by C. S. Lewis. What a wise statement, and one which applies to far more than just my attitude towards myself. I should never be content with, or impatient with, my marriage, or my parenting, or my fitness and health, or, especially, with my spiritual life. (Lots of commas in that sentence.) A finely-wrought balance is implied in Lewis’s observation. I think that I’m going to think it in the days to come.
I just have to tell a story here about my mom. If you’ve read my book you know that I tell a lot of stories about her, and many of them are kind of negative. (Kind of!) I did love her dearly and wish with all my heart that she were still here to drive me crazy. I hope I’d appreciate that. Anyway, back when I was in high school, we went on an overnight trip to Manitou Springs, a wonderful little town right outside of Colorado Springs, and we actually stayed in a hotel, something we hardly ever did. We were there for some kind of conservative Christian conference. My mother twisted her ankle while she was going down some steps. It wasn’t swollen or anything, as I recall, and she took some of her always-available Anacin. We weren’t very savvy about hotels or we would have realized that we could get a bag of ice and make her up an ice pack. I guess we could have done that, anyway. This was a long time ago. Okay. We all went to bed, and then about 2:00 AM my mom woke us all up. Her ankle hurt! She couldn’t sleep! She just couldn’t stand for us all to be sleeping when she couldn’t! So, we all commiserated–my dad, my brother and me–but inside I was furious. Why on earth did she have to wake us all up just because she couldn’t sleep? Now I’m somewhat more sympathetic, especially as I’ve seen how common it is for me to make a fuss, at either myself or others.
So, in the spirit of C. S. Lewis, I need to relax and let it go . . . but resolve to do better next time.