Don’t Fuss at Yourself!

The first sentence of the introduction to my book says, “I just got back from a wonderful women’s retreat.”  Well, guess what?  I just got back from another one.  Really, really great.  Food, conversations, speaker, the whole ball of wax and enchilada.  But remember how I kind of spoiled things for myself recently because I was so worried that no one was going to show up at a book signing I attended?  Well, I just did the same thing this past weekend:  I fussed at myself for some very minor missteps.  Why wasn’t my packing more organized? 

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A Happiness Paradox

If I plan ahead for an event and am able to relax and enjoy it, I’m sorry when it’s all over.  If I procrastinate and have lots of last-minute anxiety, it’s a tremendous relief to have the event behind me.  These strange feelings have become especially obvious to me as I’ve looked back on the retreat breakfasts I’ve overseen this year for my wonderful chorale.  (But we still have one more concert, and therefore one more Friday-night reception for me to agonize over.)

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The Steamboat Springs Syndrome

Scribbled on one of the many scraps of paper I accumulate is something from a recent church care group meeting in our home.  We get together a couple of times a month to discuss ideas sparked by recent sermons.  One of our members mentioned that we humans have the tendency in our thinking to be vague about the problem but specific about the solution, and he gave as an example the above phrase, something he’d gotten from a friend at work.

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Three Things I Learned . . .

. . . from a performance of the Cirque du Soleil.

As a Christmas gift this past year, my dear sister-in-law Carol gave us tickets to see this group.  A very enjoyable outing, with the added bonus of some penetrating insights which I now share with you:

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Dear me, let us be elegant or die!

You can’t accuse me of a boring consistency in the books I write about on this blog.  Last week’s book had a gun on the cover and talked about the logistics of killing someone; this week’s tells you why you should dress, eat and indeed live like an elegant Frenchwoman.  (Note to guys reading this:  the rest of February’s books are also going to be pretty female-centric.  Fine with me if you want to read the blogs or the books themselves.  I’m just a-sayin’.)

I can’t quite remember why or how I ran across this book, although I do know that I actually bought it, a rarity for me.  It was enjoyable and, I thought at the time, pretty lightweight, one of many memoirs about Americans going to France and finding out what they’ve been missing.  

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There’s no great pleasure . . .

. . . without some small pain!

Below you’ll see a slideshow of some of the wonderful pictures Jim took this past week on our traditional visit to the Denver Botanic Gardens “Blossoms of Light” tour which they have during December.  (This post was originally written in December 2014. Please note that because this site was moved to a new platform some images were lost, among them, sadly, the pictures for this post.) 

Last year we missed it, for some reason.  This year they had absolutely outdone themselves.  There’s one small drawback to this outing:  It’s usually pretty COLD.  I’ve gone before wearing a totally inadequate jacket and shivered my way through it.  More of an endurance test than a pleasurable outing.  This year I made sure to wear my heavy-duty parka and did much better, but 23 degrees is still 23 degrees.  I found myself alternately being distracted from the cold by the lovely displays and distracted from the lovely displays by the cold.  I’m so glad we made the effort, though.  What a great memory, and how little the discomfort really mattered.  Don’t we often switch those priorities, though, and concentrate on the small inconveniences and difficulties?   I think back to my father’s funeral, for example, which was on the whole a wonderful service.  What stands out in my mind the most?  The fact that their sound system picks up police scanner transmissions in the area, so periodically the testimonies and the Gospel-filled sermon were interrupted.  Later my brother said to me, “Why were you sitting there making faces at me while I was giving my testimony?”  I was so irritated and distracted by the sound system’s defects that I irritated and distracted him.  I do try any more not to let myself dwell on the imperfections inherent in any human event, but it’s a struggle for me.  I’m sure there will be more posts on this topic.