The Thanksgiving Post-Mortem

Roast Turkey just out of the ovenHow was your Thanksgiving? I have to say that this was one of the nicest I can remember in an unbroken string of enjoyable holidays. We had our 15 people who ate, played games, talked, watched college football, and hung around for a long time. That’s always my yardstick for measuring how successful a party is.

But since I’ve been writing about the food, I’m going to tell you how that part went. Also, if you don’t particularly care about my results, at least scroll down and read about the two things you shouldn’t do when cooking a turkey. As I said in an earlier post, this is a bit late for Thanksgiving but you may end up having a turkey for Christmas too. (I’m hoping to be asked to do some cooking for that meal, too.)

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Thanksgiving Menu for 2018

Everyone reading this probably has TG dinner all planned out, but just in case you don’t, here’s what I’m planning to do right now. We’re up to 15 for the count, with possibly more to come. I’m so thrilled! Back in our old house I always wanted to have 20, but the most we ever had was 13. Which was WONDERFUL, of course. But to me this holiday should be completely and utterly over the top. It’s my favorite holiday of the year. So here goes:

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Bake Sale Bashing

Beware the cupcake!

Hello everyone! Watch for the name and design of these blogposts to change sometime over the next few weeks. You’ll start seeing “Respect Food Roles” as the title of the blog and the header will change to something food-related. I’m excited about the new content that I’ll be publishing. So don’t be freaked out if things look different soon. I’ll tell you exactly when the change will take place so you’ll know what to look for.

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It Ain’t About the Money, Honey!

Dollar bill inside a ringA number of years ago I read an article in the Washington Post Magazine (attempts to track it down online have been unsuccessful) about expensive weddings. The highlight of the story was the description of a couple who spent $100,000 on their special day—and this happened at least a decade ago, when a $100,000 wedding was really a $100,000 wedding.

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What Are Your Limits?

At 9:00 last night I told Jim that I was going to take a look at a documentary that was airing on our PBS station but that I thought I probably wouldn’t watch much of it, as it sounded pretty depressing.  The title of the film was “The Overnighters” and was described as telling the story of a Lutheran pastor in a small North Dakota oil-boom town who opens up his church to let men sleep there who have come to find work and have nowhere else to go.  Usually these films in the series “POV” are an hour long, but it was clear at 10:00 that we had a ways to go, and I was fading fast.  When I turned off the TV last night I figured that I knew pretty much what was going to happen to Jay Reinke and his program; today I went online to watch the remainder and found out the rest of the story.

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The Importance of the Human Connection

What on earth is the significance of a mountain of mulch to human relationships?  Just this:  We drive over 16 miles, all the way to Franktown, to buy mulch and other landscaping supplies, passing two others, one less than four miles away and one about seven and a half.  It’s a good half hour’s drive.  But we refuse to patronize the other two, all because of the interactions (or lack thereof) we’ve had.  As our former next-door neighbor and business consultant extraordinaire Walt Hogan used to say, it all comes down to relationships.

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Three Things I Learned . . .

. . . from a performance of the Cirque du Soleil.

As a Christmas gift this past year, my dear sister-in-law Carol gave us tickets to see this group.  A very enjoyable outing, with the added bonus of some penetrating insights which I now share with you:

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It is more blessed to give . . .

. . . so be willing to do some receiving!

[The original picture for this post was of yet another cross-stitch kit in my possession.] I’ve said that I have enough cross-stitching to last me till the nursing home, but my sister-in-law and I went to a needlework shop yesterday and I just fell in love with this one.  “Oh, I don’t need to get this,” I said, and left it on the rack.  But when I looked again, it was gone–and in my s-in-l’s hands.  “Let me get this for you,” she said.  “You spoil us rotten when we visit.  I’d love to give it to you.”  I hesitated.  The tendency is always to demur when someone wants to do something for you.  But then I remembered how pleased people are to give a gift.  “Okay.”  Her face lit up.  Am I pleased with this item?  Indeed I am.  But you know who was even more pleased?  She was.

Later I was asking Carol if it was okay for me to tell this story on my blog, and not only did she say that it was, she also told a similar story about herself.  She was 14 and possessed of very little self-esteem, as she puts it.  Her aunt wanted to buy her a Minnesota t-shirt with a funny slogan.  Carol kept refusing, until her aunt said, “A gift can please the giver as much as it does the receiver.”  How true!  Carol accepted the gift (and still has the t-shirt).  So I hope that yesterday as you opened your presents that you  didn’t utter the fatal words, “Oh, you shouldn’t have!” and instead just said “thank you.”  If you did say those words or have that attitude, resolve that you will STOP IT RIGHT NOW.  As the author of The Surrendered Wife says, your motto should be, “Receive, receive, receive.”