People Will Think Anything.

book cover for Little White Lie

Little White Liea film by Lacey Schwartz, available for streaming on Netflix and through the film’s website, as well as on Amazon and iTunes.

Usually I post about one media item per week,  almost always a book but once in awhile a film.  I think the last film I wrote about was Poverty, Inc.  And I’ve already done a book post this week. But I’ve been going around with a line from this film echoing in my head:

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The Genius of Noncomplementary Behavior

revolver pointedSo, now that I have captured your attention with this picture (since the title may not have done so), let me tell you three stories about this type of behavior:

1.  In Washington D. C. a group of friends is sitting in the back yard having a party.  Suddenly the barrel of a gun appears between two of the women.  The gunman points it at the head of one woman and then the other.  “Give me your money!” he yells.  “Give me your money or I’ll kill you!”  The group is frozen.  They can’t do what he wants because none of them has any money.  Someone tries to reason with the guy:  “Wouldn’t your mother be ashamed of you if she knew what you were doing?”  “I don’t have a mother!” he screams.  “Give me your money before I shoot!”

Then one of the women who’s had the gun pointed at her head speaks up:  “Would you like a glass of wine?”  The man is completely taken aback.  He lowers the gun.  “Yes, I would,” he says.  He takes the glass, then eats some cheese.  In the end, he says, “I think I came to the wrong place” and leaves, carefully

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So, Is It So Bad to Be a Pollyanna?

Statue of Polyanna with arms held widephoto credit: Wikipedia

In a recent post I said that my intention was to look at the “real” Pollyanna.  This character appears in a book of the same name, published in 1913, and has gone on to live a long life in adaptations for stage and film, the most famous being the 1960 Disney version starring Hayley Mills.

Pollyanna is known for playing the “Glad Game” (not the “Gland Game,” as I originally typed it), taught to her by her father, in which she tries to find something to be glad about in every situation.  The original inspiration comes when Pollyanna expects to get a doll from the “missionary barrel” but finds only a pair of crutches.  Her father tells her to look on the bright side:  She can be glad that she doesn’t need them!

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Heroism Doesn’t Mean Perfection

McCain being pulled from his plane after being shot downphoto credit: Wikipedia

I’ve been thinking quite a bit about John McCain for the past few days; if you want to know why, take a look here.

The photograph, taken in 1967, is of McCain being pulled from Truc Bach Lake in Vietnam after his plane was hit by a missile, the start of his 5 1/2 years as a POW.  What I find so interesting, and so helpful, in this story is that McCain didn’t act perfectly in this situation, and he admits that he didn’t.  It would be foolish of him, and of us who read about him, to condemn him because he didn’t meet an impossibly ideal standard.

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A Fruitful Book

Book cover of How People Change, showing a tree in stages of growth

How People Change by Timothy S. Lane and Paul David Trip, New Growth Press, 2006, available in multiple formats.

Another one of those books that’s been sitting on our shelves for years. At some point Jim was in a group that studied it, and he felt that the discussions were very worthwhile.  So when I was casting around for a good Christian book to read in my early-morning study time I settled on this one.  We had had some excellent teaching at our church lately about how God brings about fruit in our lives, and one of the big takeaways for me was that fruit, growth, and change all happen slowly and organically.  Our senior pastor has said before, “You don’t make an apple tree productive by stapling fruit to the branches.”  That’s such a funny illustration that it sticks in the mind.  Can’t you just see the guy with the stapler and the bag of apples, reaching up to grab a twig and use his trusty Swingline?

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What’s Your Threshold?

Doorway showing a dramatic vistaphoto credit pixabay.com

Fascinating broadcast last week on This American Life about how hard it is for most of us to cross a threshold and go over into another set of ideas or behaviors.  So many of us (and I have to include myself in this, much as I hate to do so) are timid. We have to see that others are crossing the threshold too, and then maybe we’ll do it.  And sometimes this is a good thing, as it helps to preserve the social order.  So, on this segment of the program hosted by best-selling author Malcolm Gladwell there’s the example given of mob behavior, especially riots. Psychologists have always tried to puzzle out why a group of people will do things that they’d never do on their own.

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A Short-Sighted Dive Wastes My Time.

Man diving into waterphoto credit pixabay.com

Remember yesterday’s post (I’m sure you do!)–“Nothing happens until something moves”?  And how I said that as soon as I was done with that post I was going to take the next step in getting my audiobook finished?  Well, I sat down with my husband to figure out how to get started on the editing-out-the-flubs process and it quickly became clear that my audio files were not usable.  There was a lot of “clipping,” which happens when the loudness levels go up into the red limit on the recorder and the top of the sound wave is “clipped” off.   This error makes for an unpleasant, harsh sound.   Also, I hadn’t really thought

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“Nothing Happens . . . 

geometric drawings and formulasuntil something moves.”  Albert Einstein

Another great quotation from the funeral of Gil Johnson.  I’m sure that this is a well-known statement, but I don’t remember ever hearing it before.  So let’s unpack it, as the current jargon says, not in the scientific sense that Einstein meant but in a more practical sense:
​1.  There has to be a beginning before there can be an end.  Isn’t that, like, deep?  But it’s true.  The rockslide will never happen

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“I Have a Problem!  No, . . . 

2 Leglo Starwars Storm Troopers trying to move an eggphoto credit pixabay.com

you have an opportunity.”  Gil Johnson, quoted at his funeral on June 25, 2016.

Don’t know how the little storm troopers are going to solve their egg problem, but their brains (if they had brains, that is) must be going a hundred miles an hour trying to sort things out. And that’s the thing:  profound problems lead to profound thinking and profound solutions.  I’m not going to get all Hallmark-y and chirpy here and say, “Be glad for your problems!”  That’s a bit much to bear, isn’t it, especially when you’re in the thick of things? What is helpful, though, is to look for solutions. What can be done? What should be done?  Let’s go on from there.

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A Wise Comment on the Nature of Freedom.

Victor Frankl in lab coatphoto credit Wikipedia

I said in a post last week that I needed to actually read Victor Frankl’s book Man’s Search for Meaning instead of just mining quotation websites for nuggets.  Since we’ve started a new month my Hoopla account is back in business, so I just checked out the audio version and look forward to listening to it.  It’s only four hours and change, so not very long.  I’m doing a lot of gardening these days, and Frankl will be a good companion for me as I choose to pull those weeds.

In the meantime, here’s another nugget:

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”


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