Not My Circus, Not My Monkeys.

Group of baboons huddled togetherYes, I know these aren’t really monkeys. They’re baboons. (Although I didn’t know it until I saw the title on the image.)

Wish I could take credit for ferreting out the above clever proverb (little animal joke there), but it’s from the Gretch and Liz “Happier” podcast episode from yesterday. Once again they’ve hit the mail squarely on the head, albeit about a principle I’ve been mulling a lot lately. I just had never heard that particular proverb before. (It’s Polish, and the original says, “Nie mój cyrk, nie moje małpy.“)

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A New Productivity App for You to Try

bus schedule, clock, time management, alarm, late rush, overtime, stress, delayYou don’t have to use any kind of digital tool to keep track of to-do lists and your time. If you have a system that works for you, then more power to you! I remember reading some time ago about a consultant who met with a very busy executive (I think she was a realtor) who used paper to-do lists and calendars to keep track of her tasks and schedule. She had Post-It notes stuck on her computer, pads of paper on her desk, and a duplicate set of lists for her assistant. It all looked very cluttered and low-tech, and she wanted to change to a computer-driven system.

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A Great Concert, but Life Moves On!

Whew! What a week! Posts on this blog have been pretty sparse, and I didn’t get my newsletter out on Monday. So I plan to write something today and tomorrow and send the newsletter out then. Events are flying past at the speed of light. I’ll have pics and posts about our move into the new space, and I have a great book to recommend this week that will be up tomorrow.

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Is Empathy Really a Good Thing?

Face within a faceRecently I picked up a book at the library called Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion by Yale psychologist Pual Bloom. Hmmm, I thought, This is pretty iconoclastic. Everybody seems unequivocally for empathy. This was one of my stuck-at-the-library times when the house was being shown, as I recall, so I sat down to see if it was worth checking out, fairly quickly deciding that it was one of those books that lays out the whole argument in the introduction and then uses the rest of the book to give different example or aspects of that central truth.

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Lessons from the World’s Ugliest Muffins.

muffin with sunken topPretty bad, huh? I’ve posted about these muffins before and have used my new recipe card app to write out what I did the time before this. They came out pretty well in that version but still didn’t have the rise I wanted, so I tried yet another combination of leavening with the awful result you see here. They tasted fine, but boy! People had to be pretty hardy to risk eating one. I made four dozen of these things for the Easter breakfast at our church Sunday and only brought home about a dozen, so it wasn’t as bad as it could have been. Still and all, though!

 

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Planning to Fail

peanut butter cups

As I’ve mentioned about a million times, we’re selling our house. (See it on Zillow here, but don’t be put off by the gazillion pictures. Our realtor just added pictures instead of replacing them.) One little thing you can do to make your visitors feel welcome is to put out a dish of candy. (A dish of poison, in other words.) So there I was last Friday at Office Depot buying some more signs to put up for our open houses, plural, over the weekend, and decided to buy a bag of individually-wrapped candies to put out. Now, let’s see—there were those beautiful Hershey’s mini chocolate bars, really good stuff in classy gold and silver wrappers. I considered those. And then I saw a bag of those little Reese’s peanut-butter cups.Not the regular-size ones. The little ones, the ones that have exactly the right ratio of chocolate to peanut butter.. The same exact ones that used to cost two cents apiece back when I was in college, so a dozen of them came out to exactly a quarter since there was a penny tax. Yes, those. (They cost a lot more than two cents now, let me tell you.) I used to buy a dozen and eat them all at once. The only thing better than a mini peanut-butter cup is something called a Peanut Butter Smoothie, which a company called Boyer’s still makes and which is indescribably delicious. Wonderful as chocolate and peanut butter is, butterscotch and peanut butter is even more so. They didn’t have the smoothies very often, but when they did, boy, did I take advantage of them! (If I wanted them today I’d have to order them online, so that’s at least somewhat of a safeguard. The picture is from a candy company website.)

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A Glimpse into the Past

Michael Kitchen playing Foyle

Foyle’s War: The Home Front Files, British TV series 2002-2015. Available on Netflix and Amazon and numerous other outlets. Good source for info: www.imdb.com/title/tt0310455/.

​Well, last week I didn’t post about a book or a podcast or a movie, and this week I could talk about Beauty and the Beast, which I asked for as part of my birthday weekend and which we saw last night. (This trend of selling assigned movie seats is becoming quite a pain. Also, they’re pulling out the regular seats and putting in recliners, so there are fewer seats overall, but then I guess they’ve upped the prices. We always try to buy the discount tickets at King Soopers, but you can’t use them to book seats online. When we got there we were told there were three tickets left for the showing we wanted but they weren’t together and two of them were pretty close.

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Happy Memories of Aida

Album cover for Leontyne Price's AidaI’m cross-posting this article on the “Behind the Music” blog and on “Intentional Happiness.” As you know if you’re a regular reader, I belong to a community choir, the Cherry Creek Chorale, and I write background essays on our selections that then turn up on my own website as well as theirs.

So, for our last concert of the year, in May (tickets are already available!), we are doing several opera selections as part of “The Greatest Choral Show on Earth.” One of them is the “Grand March” from Verdi’s Aida. Because it’s so familiar, it’s easy to lose sight of what a masterpiece it is and what its significance is in the opera as a whole.

 

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Nero and Happiness

Nero indulging at a feast
Stich, Abbildung, gravure, engraving : 1881

I wrote yesterday about what I see as the mistaken notion of making a false dichotomy between a happy life vs. a meaningful and holy life. Are we to assume that if we’re fulfilling a higher purpose we’ll therefore be miserable? That idea makes no sense.

There was a section somewhere in one of Gretchen Rubin’s books, I knew, about this whole idea of whether or not it was a good idea to deliberately pursue happiness.

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In Which I (Respectfully) Argue with Victor Frankl

Meercats looking in both directions“Success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. “ Victor Frankl, in Man’s Search for Meaning.

Sounds good, doesn’t it?

 

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